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i have a daughter and when she is bad i tell her dad o spank her because it is the mans responsibilty to punish the kids but do you think im right how many dads spank there kids

i spank more often then my husband. but i think its up to whoever is there to dole out the discipline as needed.

but this question sounds suspiciously like a reaction seeker to me.

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Both parents should agree on this, but in our case we spank our kids.

When both parents agree with this kind of discipline, both should be able to do it. It can’t be just the father who is tasked to do it, afterall, discipline is not a task, its a necessity.

When a mother tells her child, “I’ll tell daddy you’ve been bad and he will spank you when he gets home.” …doesnt the mom sound so lame?

an opportunity for discipline should never be allowed to pass by. If a child misbehaves, at that very instance the child must be disciplined.

(i will not discuss parental judgement on discipline, how kids should be spanked, how not and how to do it and the gravity of the punishment)

I just want to emphasize that both parents must be firm to discipline and quick to recognize an opportunity to enforce discipline.

When a parent spanks their child the other parent must not interfere. A mother must not “come to the rescue” of the child being spanked by the father. this would result into the “good parent-bad parent” synrome.
when this happens, automatically, the father becomes the villain and the mother becomes the hero. The same would result vice versa.

Discipline would only work if it is enforced thouroughly and firmly. NO ARGUING in front of the kids when punishment is being enforced! (argue later, do not interrupt the enforcement of discipline. arguments must be done behind closed doors and beyond childrens hearing)

When you start discipline, you must know how to end it. The parent who enforced descipline must take sometime to talk to the child afterwards. explain to the child why he/she was discipline. Only after this can the “other” parent approach the disciplined child.

always, end discipline with explanation and reassurance the child is loved and we only wish the best for them.

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Just looking for opinions, even though I think my 5 month old daughter did say her first words….mama:) She says it when she’s crying or anxious to see me, and when I come back she stops saying it and has this adorable look of relief on her face. Would you call that her first word since she associates it with wanting to see me?

ABSOLUTELY! Congrats! My daughter’s first word was mama as well. I walked away from her while my hubby was feeding her. She said momma so sadly as I walked away and she watched me walking across the room. My point is, she associated me as momma and just didn’t say it to say it. Sounds like your lil one associated you to momma as well! Now she says momma, dadadadadadada and babababababa

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My 7 month old baby girl was up all night crying uncontrollably. Could it be colic? and if so don’t they tend to be miserable all day not just at night? Because during the day she is fine!

She could be teething. here are signs of teething:
The first signs of teething usually begin a few months before the first tooth appears, so you will need to look for particular symptoms to ensure that the symptoms you notice are truly teething-related. While most parents generally agree that some or all of the symptoms below occurred around the time of teething, it is still recommended that you check with your pediatrician to rule out other possible causes for the symptoms, especially if you’re baby is running a fever (temperature above 39C [102F]) and/ or appears lethargic and unwell.

1. Irritability: As the new tooth rises closer to the surface your baby’s gums may become increasingly more sore and painful, leading to fussiness and crying.

2. Drooling: From three to four months of age you may see your baby start drooling more often than normal. Teething stimulates drooling, which may be worse with some babies than others.

3. Coughing: The increase in saliva can cause your baby to occasionally cough or gag. As long as your baby shows no signs of a cold or flu and does not run a high fever, this is noting to worry about.

4. Chin rash: If your baby is a heavy drooler, the constant contact with saliva may cause the skin around the chin and mouth to become irritated. Gently wipe your baby’s mouth and chin periodically throughout the day to help prevent chapped skin and rashes.

5. Biting & gnawing: A teething baby will gnaw and gum down on anything. The counter pressure from biting helps relieve the pressure from under the gums and temporarily numbs the pain. Teething aids designed specifically for babies are safe and effective.

6. Cheek rubbing and ear pulling: Pain in the gums may spread to the ears and cheeks particularly when the back molars begin coming in. This is why you may see your baby rubbing their cheeks or pulling at their ears. However, keep in mind that pulling at an ear can also be a sign of an ear infection, especially when accompanied by a fever.

7. Diarrhea: Most parents usually notice slightly looser bowel movements when a baby is teething. A recent study done by the Children’s Hospital in Australia found this to be the most common symptom of teething, yet many doctors still disagree and discount diarrhea as a symptom of teething. The most likely cause of diarrhea during teething is the extra saliva swallowed, which then loosens the stool. Report any diarrhea that lasts for more than three bowel movements to your doctor.

8. Low-grade fever: A fever is another symptom that doctors are sometimes hesitant to directly link with teething. Many parents however find their baby gets a low-grade fever while teething. Notify your doctor if the temperature rises above 39C (102F) or if the temperature remains elevated for more than 2 days.

9. Not sleeping well: You may find your child wakes more often at night. Most parents agree that night waking occurs more frequently when the molars are coming in.

10. Cold like symptoms (runny nose, etc.): Some parents find that their baby displays cold-like symptoms when teething. Runny noses, coughing and general cold symptoms are believed to be a result of frequent hand-to-mouth movements in an attempt to alleviate the pain. Notify your doctor if cold-like symptoms occur for more than 3 days and do not improve on their own.
http://www.babiesonline.com/articles/bab…

COLIC:
It is not uncommon for newborn babies to go through periods when they appear abnormally irritable or seemingly cry for no reason. However, if you suspect your baby is suffering from colic, you may look for the following symptoms:

cries vigorously for long periods, despite efforts to console
symptoms occur around the same time each day or night, often after meal times, and usually ending as abruptly as they began
shows signs of gas discomfort and abdominal bloating
has a hard, distended stomach, with knees pulled to the chest, clenched fists, flailing arms and legs, and an arched back
experiences frequent sleeplessness, irritability and fussiness
In most cases, colic is the worst pain a baby has thus experienced. It is usually manifested as an acute abdominal pain with intense spasmodic cramping, but since colicky babies cannot describe exactly what distresses them, it is hard for parents to know the precise cause of their distress. Infantile colic is most common in the first few weeks to four months of an infant’s life; rarely does it endure past six months of age. Pediatricians often use the “Rule of Three” to diagnose colic: “A baby that cries for three or more hours per day, at least three times per week, within a three month period”. Wess, et al., “Paroxysmas fussing in infancy.” Pediatrics 1984:74:998. About 25 percent of babies worldwide meet the official “Rule of Threes” criteria for medical diagnosis of colic.

What Causes Infants to become Colicky?
There is no single consistent cause for colic that experts all agree upon. However, a lot of evidence suggests that colic may be caused in different ways in different babies. There appear to be several contributing factors that, when occurring in combination, are likely to result in colic pain and discomfort:

Newborns have an immature digestive system that has never processed food. The gastrointestinal system is literally just learning to function. Muscles that support digestion have not developed the proper rhythm for moving food efficiently thought the digestive tract. Furthermore, newborns lack the benevolent bacterial flora (probiotics) that develop over time to aid digestion. This explains why almost all infants outgrow colic within the first six months
Certain foods eaten by lactating mothers contain volatile chemicals and allergens that in a small percentage of infants result in colic discomfort and digestive upset. Through lactation, trace elements of cruciferous vegetables and other gas producing foods may be passed via breast milk to baby and cause gas and bloating.
Infants often swallow air while feeding or during strenuous crying, which increases gas and bloating, further adding to their discomfort.
Since infants nervous systems are so immature, it is possible for them to get overloaded with unfamiliar sights and sounds. Infants that are easily overloaded often experience more severe colic, fussiness, and difficulty sleeping later in the day or at night. In general, the more activity (errands, visitors, T.V., phones, etc.) in baby’s day, the higher the chances of baby becoming colicky and fussy.

What Treatment Options are Available to Relieve Baby Colic?
Colic, and the months of distress and sleeplessness that it brings to both infants and parents, can leave you feeling frantic, frustrated, worried, exhausted, confused, guilty and inadequate. Foremost, it is essential to build and maintain a loving bond with your infant. If your baby experiences colic that does not appear to dissipate, you will probably be looking for a safe, natural and effective colic remedy to ease your baby’s suffering. There are several treatments available for baby colic. As always, you should consult your pediatrician first before giving baby any medications, remedies or supplements.

Homeopathic remedies can be an excellent choice for treating infant colic symptoms. Homeopathy is safe and completely allergen-free and side-effect-free. There is only one such liquid formula on the market. Colic Calm Gripe Water is available online and in select health food stores and health practitioners’ offices. Colic Calm has a success rate of over 90% in treating baby colic. Many parents and caretakers have been relieved to find an all-natural remedy. The unique homeopathic formula works within minutes, so it is only given on an “as needed” basis. Thousands of satisfied customers have also reported that it works wonders for bloating, pressure, stomach cramps, hiccups, teething and even acid reflux. It is also extremely effective on gas created during introduction of new foods into babies’ delicate digestive tracts. A combination of homeopathic ingredients are used to treat the multiple symptoms of colic as depicted below.

There are other gripe waters on the market that are sold as “dietary supplements”. Be careful! These are not regulated by the FDA and fall under loose dietary supplement guidelines. Generally, the main ingredients of these products include:

Sodium Bicarbonate (a.k.a. Baking Soda). Sodium bicarbonate is an alkali (antacid) which alters the naturally occurring pH of baby’s stomach acid. It may counteract some discomfort caused by acid reflux in cases of acidic stomach. However, changing the delicate pH balance in baby’s system can cause over-alkalinity and exacerbate a colicky condition. Furthermore, sodium bicarbonate is also absorbed into the bloodstream and thus can have unwanted side effects. Studies have shown that sodium bicarbonate can deplete and interfere with Folic Acid and Iron, indicating that it may affect the function or absorption of both.
For this reason, sodium bicarbonate containing products are not to be consumed by “children under 5 years of age”, as stated clearly on antacid and baking soda boxes. Antacids always warn against extended use: “Do not use for more than 2 weeks”. According to some doctors, sodium bicarbonate can cause an imbalance in babies’ electrolytes, which can also lead to serious problems.

Please note that antacids do interact with or prevent the absorption of many medications including, but not limited to, aspirin, tetracycline, penicillamine and ulcer medications (Zantac, Pepcid, Axid, Tagamet). According to Medline Plus, a service of the National Library of Medicine, antacids (sodium bicarbonate) “should not be given to young children (up to 6 years of age) unless prescribed by their doctor”. Since child

hello
my son is 15 months and a half and he is still in the rear position. he has a convertible carseat that can be used to up to 33 pounds in rear position and up to 65 pounds in the forward position.
the problem is that his knees are bent when he is in the rear position! so i really don’t think his legs are comfortable. i read that it is safer to keep him in the rear position as long as possible, so actually i extended it to 3 months and a half since he turned one. i guess it is time now to switch to the forward.
have you had the same issue?

babies dont have extremely strong neck muscles until the age of 3, its best to keep prolonging the switch until you feel like your baby could handle a crash and survive.
* Rear-facing is safest for both adults and children, but especially for babies, who would face a greater risk of spinal cord injury in a front-facing carseat during a frontal crash.

* Rear-facing car seats spread frontal crash forces over the whole area of a baby’s back, head and neck; they also prevent the head from snapping relative to the body in a frontal crash.

* Rear-facing carseats may not be quite as effective in a rear end crash, but severe frontal and frontal offset crashes are far more frequent and far more severe than severe rear end crashes.

* Rear-facing carseats are NOT a safety risk just because a baby’s legs are bent at the knees or because they can touch/kick the vehicle seat.

* Rear-facing as long as possible is the recommendation of the American Academy of Pediatricians, and can reduce injuries and deaths. Motor Vehicle Crashes are the #1 overall cause of death for children 14 and under.

http://ca.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind…

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the longer you keep them rear facing the safer it is. Their muscles just aren’t strong enough to support their heads in the event of a crash. Go to Utube and watch the car seat crash videos, that’ll convince you! It’s generally the parents who say the kid looks uncomfortable in the seat but the baby doesn’t know any different. Also his legs being bent aren’t an issue, think about your legs their bent when in the car.

Remember that every step up in a car seat is a step down in safety.

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You don’t think his legs are comfortable because they are bent, but does HE actually seem uncomfortable at all? We kept my daughter rear-facing until she was about 18 months old (took almost that long to hit 20 lbs) and her legs were plenty squished but it wasn’t an issue. Sure, he will likely be happier turned around as others have said, but the important thing is for him to be safer.

Is it normal for the baby or toddler in my case to be there in court for the adoption hearing?

The adoption cases in my state allow children. The judge likes to see the new family together and if it is an older child he/she will talk to the child. We also were able to take some pretty cool pictures at the end, even one with the judge and my son together.

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In our case, the finalization was very informal and private, with the judge sitting at a table with us rather than at the bench, and our son running around the courtroom. My mom was with us and kept him entertained and supervised as we signed papers etc. Our attorney had informed us it would be this way…very friendly and chatty. We also took pictures with the judge.

As your attorney or SW for your courts normal procedures, or even the court clerk.

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It depends on the state you are in. I live in California and here it is REQUIRED that you TAKE the children with you. The judge wants to see the child, see your interaction with them, make sure the child is ok, and to see that the child is happy. When you make your appointment for your hearing just ask them what is preferred by the judge.

VVery few adoptions are carried out in Australia now - as family preservation is very strong in OZ - thank goodness.
Less than 500 adoptions are finalised per year.
(and most of them are from overseas)
And yes - it is a long and hard process - and costly.

If you really wish to adopt - you have to go through your state government department - as all adoptions are government controlled.
(google your state and adoption - and links should come up)

What is really needed in Australia - are more foster carers.
There are so many children in need of care - and many have their parental rights terminated - so adoption is a possibility.
These are the children that need loving families the most.

Please do remember that adoption is meant to be about finding a home for a child that really needs it - not about filling your needs.
Unless you can conceive a daughter - you will need to grieve the daughter you were unable to have - as no adoptee needs the pressure of trying to fulfill an adoptive parent’s dream.
That’s too much to ask of any child.

Do look into reading - as suggested by Phil - as the better educated you are on life for an adoptee - the better life the adoptee will ultimately have.
There are many losses an adoptee has - to get to an adoption - please be aware of those.

Here are links to many adult adoptees who are now blogging on the internet -
http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index…

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Before adopting, be sure to educate yourself on the experience of adoptees. Read their blogs.

Here are some books that I would recommend:

* “Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self” by Brodzinsky, Schecter, and Henig

* “Journey of the Adopted Self” by Betty Jean Lifton

* “The Primal Wound” by Nancy Verrier

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